Silvana - Work, Relationship and Study all have a special connection to China

EYIC
Jan 6, 2024
10 min read

Updated: Jan 8, 2024

Working for HuaWei to studying in China

As I reflect upon my journey, it's remarkable how destiny unfolded to bring me to this moment. My name is Silvana, and I'm a 25-year-old from Colombia. I'm 25 years old, from Colombia, and currently pursuing my master's degree in Fudan University in Shanghai. My master's is in Electronic Information, or DianZiXinXi (电子信息) in Chinese. It's conducted in English due to the dual-degree program with a university in Finland. However, as a Chinese government scholarship recipient, I can only attend classes in China. That's why my program is in English. I'm now in my second year, having started in 2022, but I arrived in China just last October. So, it's still quite early in the journey.

How does the story start?

The notion of ending up in China and forming connections with Chinese people never crossed my mind during my formative years. If anything, Europe seemed more aligned with my plans than the vast landscapes of China.

The unexpected twist in my story began with my boyfriend, a Chinese national. Our paths intertwined back in Colombia, where I pursued my studies in electronic engineering. The Huawei internships during my bachelor's degree marked the genesis of our connection. Fate took a turn when my boss, the linchpin of our encounter, transitioned to a Nanjing-based company in Colombia. This professional shift brought my boyfriend and me together, working side by side. Over the course of a year, our professional camaraderie blossomed into a romantic relationship.

However, the inevitable crossroads arrived when his visa expired, compelling us to embark on the journey of a long-distance relationship. It is worth noting that my initial contact with China was more out of professional necessity than a heartfelt love for Chinese culture. My decision to pursue a master's degree in China was also accidental, but as I began to learn about Chinese culture, I became more and more interested.

The transition to remote work emerged as a crucial piece of the puzzle, offering the flexibility needed to align my life plans with the prospect of being with my boyfriend in China. So after coming to China to study, I still work remotely for a company.

How does the story continue in China?

(1) Applying for a Master's Scholarship Program in China

The application process is a meticulous endeavour that requires a strong statement of purpose and study plan. My background in working for Chinese companies (especially Huawei) may have played a key role in my application. I also learnt a lot about Chinese culture after meeting my Chinese boyfriend.

I actually wanted to apply to study in Nanjing because my boyfriend lives in Nanjing but Nanjing University doesn't have an English programme. So I looked at other options like like Fudan University and Zhejiang University in Shanghai, they had some English programmes, but I then applied to Fudan University and Shanghai Jiaotong University because I didn't apply in time for Zhejiang University when its application channel was closed. Luckily, I was offered the scholarship and ended up choosing Fudan University , while I was still working for a company in Colombia, and then I switched to work for a European company where I could work remotely.

(2) Applying for a Visa

The visa application process, though challenging amid the backdrop of the COVID situation, saw success in a mere week. Initially, restrictions posed hurdles, especially for individuals from countries like mine. However, as circumstances evolved, scholarship students, including myself, found a pathway. The embassy processed the necessary documents, overcoming the obstacles presented by the prevailing restrictions, albeit at the expense of high ticket prices. The scholarship, covering accommodation, tuition fees, partial living expenses, and medical insurance, played a pivotal role in facilitating this journey.

(3) Arriving in China

Landing in Xiamen marked the official start of my trip to China, but it took an unexpected turn. My quarantine period was extended to 10 days due to changing circumstances, including a few extra days at a government hotel. Upon arrival in Shanghai, my journey became even more complicated when my quarantine was extended by a few days due to the train travelling through a high-risk area.

Overall, the whole process from receiving the scholarship to embarking on the journey to China went relatively smoothly, especially with the challenges posed by the pandemic, and I feel grateful that I was able to arrive in China with such strict travelling restrictions the previous year, and that these challenges have become unique memories of my time in China, imperfect, but I also managed to do what I wanted to do.

Discovering China:

A Journey of Evolving Impressions

Upon arriving in China, my perspective underwent a profound transformation, particularly for those who haven't set foot in the country, it can be challenging to comprehend. For me, China has become more than just a destination; it's a profound connection. The comfort and sense of security I've experienced here surpass any preconceived notions.

In my homeland, Colombia, influenced deeply by American culture, people hold many stereotypical views about China, revolving around propaganda and government control. Many assume that living in China means sacrificing the right to a normal life and freedom. Contrary to these beliefs, I feel completely at ease here, and these perceptions are largely shaped by media propaganda. Regarding the use of surveillance cameras, there's a misunderstanding that they are actively monitoring at all times, while in reality, they are investigated post-incident. This practice is not unique to China, as countries worldwide employ similar measures to safeguard public security.

Those lacking real experiences in China find it challenging to grasp its true essence, relying solely on stories without firsthand experience. This sometimes frustrates me when reading comments on Instagram, as some express doubts about China, primarily stemming from fear of the unknown.

Working in China has deepened my understanding of its culture, and my family has become familiar with certain aspects of Chinese culture. In the summer, I invited two friends from Colombia, who initially hesitated but eventually decided to experience China themselves. Their family questioned their decision, wondering why they would go to China. However, after visiting, their perspective underwent a significant transformation, and they marveled at the distinct world that China presented.

In my opinion, the government should be more open in cultural exchanges, actively promoting China to other countries and cultures. The promotion of Chinese culture on social media still has gaps, with a global narrative often focusing on China's economic prowess and overlooking its multifaceted cultural aspects. There's a need for collaborative efforts to showcase this rich cultural heritage for a more comprehensive understanding.

Currently, touring China is not as straightforward, with everyone needing to apply for visas, a result of mutual restrictions. I believe more advertising should emphasize the people, culture, and tourist activities of China, rather than solely focusing on national policies. This would contribute to changing perceptions of China.

Although tourism in China poses certain difficulties, I am eager to share my experiences. Since my arrival, everything has been fantastic and awe-inspiring. Navigating numerous places in China has become effortless, thanks to various apps that enhance mobility. China's cultural freedom, in contrast, makes me feel more at ease and comfortable, with gratitude for the perfect alignment of various life events, including career changes, reunions with my Chinese boyfriend, and the acquisition of a scholarship, all contributing to this extraordinary journey.

My Life in China: Embracing Comfort and Diversity

In my life in China, I have discovered a surprising and fulfilling experience compared to Europe. Every aspect of daily life, from transportation to everyday conveniences, showcases impressive efficiency. However, what warms my heart the most is the foreigner community formed here – a support system where we help each other, share experiences, and collectively face the challenges of living in a foreign land. My boyfriend has lived in Shanghai for some time, and other foreign friends have been invaluable in providing precious advice about life in this city.

【About Travel】

Exploring different cities in China has become a delightful part of my life here, such as Nanjing, Beijing, and Hangzhou. Finding suitable accommodation can be a bit tricky for foreigners, as we must choose hotels where we can register our identity information with the police. Fortunately, I follow a Mexican girl on Instagram who has lived in China for three years. She often shares useful tips, like using Trip.com to search for hotels. This website, designed for foreigners, provides information about hotels that welcome international guests, saving us the trouble of uncertain searches and inquiries on Chinese websites.

【About Food】

Adapting to local cuisine has been an adventure. In Colombia, we usually don't eat spicy food, so everything seemed very spicy when I first arrived in China, posing an initial challenge. However, by gradually increasing my tolerance for spiciness, I have come to appreciate and enjoy the flavors of spicy dishes. If spicy is not an option, choosing a Cantonese restaurant is a wise choice.

The availability of fruits has surprised me. While Colombia is known for its variety of fruits, and although local markets offer a diverse selection, I still miss some fruits from home. Due to limited export options, finding specific Colombian products in China can be challenging, but I have adapted and found alternatives for most.

【About Apps】

Living in China, using local apps has become an essential part of my daily life, especially Alipay and WeChat. Alipay simplifies transaction processes and even accepts foreign bank cards. WeChat has become my preferred means of daily communication. It's worth noting the differences between the versions downloaded domestically and internationally. For example, WeChat Pay is only available in the domestically downloaded version. Initially, WeChat Pay did not accept foreign bank cards, but there have been improvements recently.

I also explore other apps, such as DouYin (Chinese TikTok) recommended by friends, providing me with more social media options. When facing language barriers, I usually seek help from locals or my boyfriend, who sends his location through WeChat, and I copy it into Baidu Maps for navigation. It's important to note that Google Maps is inaccessible in China and requires a VPN to access. However, Chinese map apps have more accurate data, especially when searching in Chinese.

Safety is a crucial factor that significantly influences my overall comfort here. Convenient public transportation, particularly well-organized metro systems in most cities, adds to the overall comfort. Compared to some other countries, affordable and convenient modes of transport, such as high-speed trains, make moving around easy, even with young children.

Living in China has positively changed my perception of this country, emphasizing cultural freedom and openness. Despite some political factors, I plan to continue long-term residency, exploring more cities, and immersing myself in multicultural experiences. I look forward to embracing and understanding this incredible country even more.

Understanding and Accepting Cultural Differences

【Lifestyle Habits】

When it comes to cultural differences, the first thing that comes to mind is the small things in daily life, such as showering habits. In Latin America, we usually shower in the morning, while my Chinese boyfriend prefers to shower before bedtime. This seems like a very basic but existing difference in habit. For me, taking a shower in the morning is something done before breakfast, so it's not a problem; it's just a personal habit difference. There's also a difference in drinking hot or cold water. In China, drinking hot water is a habit, but in summer, I won't drink hot water no matter what. I prefer buying bottled water from the supermarket instead of boiling water and waiting for it to cool down before drinking, as Chinese people do.

【Family Values】

Through interacting with my Chinese boyfriend's parents, I've observed some differences in family values. In China, it's common for children to adhere to their parents' views. However, my boyfriend's relationship with his parents is not such that he will unquestioningly follow their advice. I've noticed that his mom may tell him to do something, and he may nod in agreement, but he won't necessarily do it. In my family, parents usually listen more to their children's thoughts rather than telling them what to do.

Fortunately, my boyfriend's parents try to understand me despite me being a foreigner. When I visited their home, they treated me well, almost like a daughter. They care about whether I feel comfortable, which is important to me. I hope they won't put too much pressure on me, making me feel like I have to get married or something. Fortunately, the pressure they give is mainly directed at my boyfriend and not me, probably because I still don't understand much Chinese, haha. For them, children should get married by a certain age. This is different from my Western perspective, but I think even though Chinese parents hold traditional views, they still try to understand the younger generation's thoughts.

【Learning Environment】

I've noticed significant differences in student behavior, especially in my academic experiences. For instance, I participated in a double degree program in collaboration with Finland, where Finnish professors taught us and Chinese students. Interestingly, Finnish professors encouraged us to make comments, ask questions, and participate in class discussions. However, Chinese students seemed a bit hesitant, creating an awkward and uncomfortable atmosphere. Therefore, I feel a responsibility to actively participate and bridge this gap.

On another note, as part of my research work, I communicate with many students under my supervisor, including some Chinese students. Expressing one's thoughts to a supervisor is normal, especially since my supervisor is an open-minded Chinese coordinating projects with Finland. However, I've noticed that Chinese students approach their professors differently. Despite professors suggesting specific research topics, some students may not like the topic. Surprisingly, they still choose to research that topic simply because the professor suggested it. This makes me think the issue might not be entirely the professor's fault but could be due to a lack of proactive communication on the students' part. Perhaps students should express their wishes more actively, especially when dealing with an understanding professor.

My Future Plans...

I currently have two more years of coursework to complete, and my partner and I have been planning to find a job in China and settle in a city after graduation. My long-term goal is to become more proficient in learning Chinese and to strike a balance between work and a peaceful life. Additionally, I aspire to travel across various regions of China, delving deep into the diverse and vibrant aspects of this country.

Some Advice...

I hope the information I've shared above proves helpful to you. For those intending to come to China, make sure you have Alipay, an indispensable payment tool in daily life. Additionally, using Trip.com for accommodation bookings, WeChat for communication, and Baidu Maps for navigation will greatly facilitate your daily activities. While adapting to local cuisine may take some time, gradually exposing yourself to new flavors will help you immerse in the local culture.

Learning some basic Chinese would be beneficial; life without it can be challenging, especially when performing essential tasks like buying food. Understanding numbers and basic phrases will be crucial for your daily life. Consider joining online Chinese language courses, or explore resources on platforms like YouTube.

Wishing everyone who is not yet to come or is about to embark on a journey to China an unforgettable and unique life experience.